How Do You Get Kids to Eat New Things?

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I knew before I served it that it would present a problem. There didn’t seem to
be much of a chance that my Nina or Pinta would touch it.

I wanted to be able to enjoy the meal, and for me that means
that everyone at the table is happy with what they are eating. So what was I to
do? It seemed like I had two choices.

  • Go easy and be one of those short-order parents who reach
    for the fish sticks, hot dogs, or chicken fingers the minute there is conflict.

Or

  • Be a stubborn foodie who would stick to his guns, bring
    tears to his children, and stand tall behind his carefully crafted dinner.

Neither option seemed right to me, but there was no
disputing that the lamb stew was going to cause my girls to turn up their
noses. I just knew it. So I came up with an idea.

I’m a writer and I think in metaphor. I hoped my girls could
follow along. They’re both interested in books and reading, so I thought I had
a chance.

Before dinner I brought them both over to the living room
couch. I squatted down to their eye level, and said that I wanted to talk to
them about dinner. But instead of discussing food right away, I asked them, “Do
you like to read?” They both said “yes,” so I continued: “And do you know how
you learn to read bigger books? You try those that you might not understand.
It’s the only way you can learn.”

They seemed to be following along so I went on, “Learning to
eat is pretty much the same thing. You started with breast milk, then moved on
to mashed up sweet potatoes and meat, and other solids, and then there was that
time at my office cafeteria that you discovered that you liked salad. Well,
tonight I made a lamb stew.”

At this pint Pinta started to look like she might cry, so I
quickly explained, “You don’t have to eat any of it, don’t worry. If you don’t
like it, I’ll get you some ham or something else.” She calmed down, and I kept
going. “My job is to teach you to eat just like it’s my job to teach you to
read. You see that big shelf of books over there,” I said, waving towards the
stacks of books in our living room.

They nodded. “Are all of those books right for little kids?”
I asked. “No, not all of them are,” I said. “But some of them are,” and want I
want you to do tonight is to try the lamb stew. That means three bites or so.
If you don’t like it, you don’t have to eat it. I wouldn’t make you read a book
you don’t understand.”

Nina and Pinta took all this in, and they pretty much
accepted it. When we sat down at the table, I gave them small bowls of the
stew. They tried it, and in the end, I was right. They did not like it. I didn’t
mind. I got them some ham, and we ate in peace. I’ll take that. How do you
handle new foods and your kids? 

3 thoughts on “How Do You Get Kids to Eat New Things?”

  1. I really appreciate this honest approach and the book analogy is perfect. Better than that “sneaky” chef strategy. And yeah, so you were right, and they didn’t like it. But next time, they’ll trust you, and try something else.

  2. I completely agree that it is our job as parents to teach our children to eat, just as we teach our children to read. Great analogy that I’ll use with my children soon, if needed (so far so good).
    While we can’t control everything they will like, we can — and must– continue to put healthy food in front of them, and introduce “grown up” foods regularly.
    It’s inevitable: sooner or later they will take another bite, out of curiosity or defiance or trying to show up a sibling or simply in trying to score points with a parent. It doesn’t really matter why they take that second bite — the point is that if the opportunity is there, in a non-threatening way, eventually they will try a food again. And if they weren’t ready for that “grownup” taste the first time, maybe the second or third or tenth taste will be the tipping point. If not, there’s always PB&J.

  3. Fantastic analogy! I will have to try that one, as well. Often we just explain to my son that he needs to try some “thank you bites” to show his appreciation that Daddy took the time to cook something new and special for the family. If he doesn’t like it, sometimes we reduce it down. If it has chicken, some different veg, sauce, or something… we may have him start picking the chicken out. Then, work with some of the veg… and so on. The other night, he hated the garlic-ginger stirfry that I made. So, we broke it down to him… and he ended up eating it all… just not as a whole forkful, but rather a bite of chicken, a bite of the veggies, some rice, and repeat. He loves being my little foodie, and my Sous Chef, so it’s not too horrible. Last year, for Christmas, he got “Foodie ABC’s” book, and he loves trying some of the foods that are used as examples in the book!

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